It is not easy to find the real love. It is even harder to know whether or not it is real when you deal with mixed feelings. But, deep down we all have that voice in the back of our head that will not shut up.
Do you wonder if your partner is the real man for you? If you have been asking this question repeatedly, take a look at the six major differences between a man who really loves you and a man who’s only wasting your time.
Respectful vs. Tolerant
The real man, the man who loves you, will respect you and appreciate you for your strong opinions. But, on the other hand, there are men who will tell you that you are wrong or agree to let you think what you want, but without believing that your opinion is important as theirs.
Honest vs. Cruel
The relationship should be build up with trust and honesty. For example, if your man tells you that the jeans you are wearing at the moment are not for you and that you should change that will not indicate that he is a bad guy, this means that he is honest with you and he wants all the best for yourself.
But if your partner starts insulting you about things that you like, about your style or your weight then that is not true love. This indicates that your partner is not respecting you.
Encouraging vs. controlling
If your partner is truly the one, he will always encourage you to try out new opportunities and experiences. What’s more, he will introduce you to new things, but he will never force you do something you’re not comfortable with.
Protective vs. Possessive
There is a very fine line between having a protective lover and a possessive lover. It’s natural to protect someone you care about, so if he keeps you in close sight and his arm around your shoulders while you two are out at the club, great. If on the other hand, he refuses to let you go anywhere alone or starts fights with men who try to talk to you, he’s possessive and, like a dog uses aggression to defend what’s “his”.
Affectionate vs. Clingy
Now many women think that if the guy is texting, calling and wanting to be with them 24/7 is always a good think. Yes it sounds awesome but constantly checking up on you and needing the reassurance of their place in your life is actually a more selfish sign that you might ever know.
That means that he is more for himself because a man that is in love with you truly will show it physically and emotionally. A man that is clingy has emotional issues and he wants to be with you and to talk with you so just he feels needed and validated, meaning that is not for you.
Serious vs. interested
A man who is just interested in you will talk to you only when it’s convenient for him. If the relationship is fresh, this is expected.
However, if you’ve been dating for a while, and if he still talks to you only when he finds the moment appropriate, he’s probably not in love. When he is sincerely in love, he’ll always find the time to be with you, even when he doesn’t find it convenient.
Finding Mr. Right
In all fairness, these guys aren’t all bad and maybe they just need a patient partner to come in and show them the light. Just because he relishes saving money, loves his mama and delights in playing Grand Theft Auto IV until dawn, all that doesn’t make him unworthy of a relationship. However, women avoid these challenging fellows because they still have some growing to do.
Remember, not everyone will come into your life ready-made, but there’s a difference between dusting off a diamond and fighting a battle you’re never going to win.