Life is too short to be with someone who doesn’t recognize how wonderful you are every day and show you that they recognize it every day. A guy isn’t necessarily a bad guy if he begins to take you for granted- sometimes it just means that he’s a little too comfortable. While this doesn’t necessarily mean you need to break up, it does mean you need to have a serious talk.

These tips will not prevent arguments, infidelity, or other problems, but they can help foster a healthy environment and productive partnership. Clear communication, openness to new experiences, and respect for your partner are key if you want to build a lasting, loving relationship.

Respect yourself: Sometimes negligence is the issue, but other times we get too far on the other end of the spectrum. Putting your partner first 24/7 is a great way to burn yourself out and kill the passion in your relationship. Don’t be a doormat, and don’t let yourself go trying to do everything for him. Confidence is attractive, and taking care of yourself is a must.

Do something that makes you the star: Whether this means joining a band, taking singing lessons and putting on recitals, doing standup comedy, do something that puts all eyes on you. Remind him that you’re wonderful, and that plenty of people are ready and eager to give you attention. So if you don’t get it from him, you might just go get it elsewhere.

Hang Out with Your Friends More: He just didn’t invite you to spend the weekend together. Well, who cares! Just enjoy your free time and hang out with your friends. You can have a good time without him as well.

If he does call you the last minute to go out somewhere on a Friday night or Saturday night, you just let him know that you already made other plans with your friends and that he is not invited. Next time, if he cares about you, he will make sure to let you know in advance his plans for the weekend.

Make time for things to get hot in the bedroom: No, he’s probably not a sex god, but the best sex feels transcendent, mutual, connected, steamy, and dreamy; so keep sex sacred and intense for both of you. Making him feel like your own personal sex diety and him reciprocating, will probably make both your lives happier.

Demand only the best from him: That includes everything from choice of vehicle to ride into the restaurants he takes to you to ” no more cheap dates at MacDonald’s because you have become comfortable as a couple.

Flirt with him: Flirting keeps your passion alive, and it is a vital part of any good relationship. Plan solo dates often, try new things together and pinch his butt cheeks just for fun. A little sexting never hurts, either.

Be supportive of his alone time:  Unless he’s so absorbed in his alone time that you disappear from his priorities, your separateness is a good thing! If you’re worried about how long he’ll be gone, just set a time when he’ll be back and make plans together for later. Being apart can give you more to talk about, and when his alone time is used for exercise or meditation, he’ll probably be happier and healthier for having done it.

It’s easy: Smile when he says he’s off to do the things that make him happy on his own. Give him a kiss. He’ll feel seen, heard and supported.